This is not how you imagined your relationship would turn out. You two were going to be different. You would have the kind of loving relationship that eluded those around you, but now it seems to be eluding you too. It is time for outside help.

We said "for better or for worse" but this is unbearable!

How many times will you go round and round about the same argument? You know the one.

He wishes she would just back off and quit harping on him, she feels like he is a distant roommate at best. Where did the closeness go?

It used to be I could do no wrong, these days I can't do anything right.

Now when we talk it only seems to get worse.

He used to be caring and attentive, now he ignores me or yells at me.

I don't even want to talk about how empty our sex life has become!

Perhaps you are navigating the choppy waters of a physical affair, online affair,

emotional affair or pornography use?

At Restoring Hope, we help you talk through the issues that keep your relationship stuck (or heading south). We are outside the fray and are able to hold your gridlock with an open mind and a systemic perspective. We look at relationships as a system, not a right/wrong dichotomy. We have the background and training to assist you in changing your relationship and to help you both move toward healing and hope. One model we employ is Pragmatic Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C). You can get a brief introduction to it from the originator, Brent Atkinson through an article he wrote for Oprah here. We have a number of therapuetic options available to help with your unique situation.

It is our belief that both partners have a role in the situation you are in today. Is that role equal all the time? Nope. Am I going to say that one spouse is responsible for the other's affair (or other behavior)? Again, no. But both partners contribute to the relationship's decline and each one can impact the healing.